15th JULY 2012

Okay, let's take a step back at look at ourselves for a minute. Who are we? Possibly we are quite intelligent people, funny, charismatic with a lovely sense of self worth and the ability to accept that whilst our life may not be perfect it is still pretty darn good. We aren't starving or dying or poor or in a third world country where the nearest water supply is 1300 kilometres away. So why is it then, that we constantly feel the the need to look for all our insecurities, all the bad things about ourselves? Why must we nitpick on the little bits and pieces that we think make us worthless?

Where is this rant coming from? Well, I recently went to a friends 18th birthday party. I had a really great time because, as stereotypical as it sounds, I could catch up with a bunch of people who I hadn't seen in ages and who I genuinely missed. But what brought it down (and brought on the rant) was that there were a couple of my fabulous friends, who are indeed 100% fantastic, beautiful people, who were so upset because they started looking at their insecurities in a drunken state. Never a good thing to do. And they ended up not being able to have a very good time because all they did all night was focus on the bad things instead of foucusing on the positive things in their life, like the fact that they were at a party and didn't have any obligations to anybody and anything and could go wild and have a great time. Why do girls do things like this to themselves? Boys might do this too, but in my line of work and in my circle of life, it's mainly girls. Why must we look at ourselves and think, I suck. I am a crappy person. My hips are too big, my breasts are too small, I'm ugly, no wonder no boy wants to date me.

No! Just no!

Everybody is fabulous. Everybody is amazing in their own unique and special way. Yes, that is total mum-esque advice, but it's also total true. Do you think that the world and, for that matter, the human race would be as awesome as it is if everybody was the same? People, especially girls, need to start looking at themselves and start to appreciate the greatness that they are. I'm not perfect and I accept that.  I can also accept that I do things like this (look at my body and see something I don't like and fixate on it), I can. I'm actually pretty notorious at saying that my body is terrible, and sure you might think that's so hypocritical of me, but I'll get over that. What I'm trying to do now is look at my body or the things that make me upset about myself and figure out a way in which I can learn to accept it or fix it or work around it. For example, I think that I could be a bit fitter. I don't like my fitness level. So, I can easily rectify that, can't I? I've started eating healthier and making sure that I'm doing some sort of physical exercise each day, like running or walking.

And for my friends, and those people who aren't my friends but who also constantly have shit nights, I say this: No boy or girl or body figure is worth making yourself miserable over, especially when you're trying to have a good time. If, like some of my friends, a boy leads you on and you really like him and then you find out that he's sleeping/in love with someone else, forget him. Clearly, he's a dick head. If you think that he's the love of you life and you still want to be with him despite all the shit that he's doing now, talk to him instead of wallowing in self pity about how it has to be your body figure that turned him away. Have some self respect before you go respecting others.

You are all wonderful people. Inside and out.

Remember that. And if you can't find beauty in yourself and think you need to be like other people, here's a hipster quote to cheer you up:

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